Real Talk Weekend Prompt Step into the Hot Seat #11

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Here we go again, let's go it's another weekend

@chefqueen, being birthed by one does not mean being raised by them. That one person who raised and shaped me into what I am today was my grandmother.

That woman was a no nonsense woman and that made her the center of my universe before I started having my own children.

Even in death, I still remember her and apply her teachings to a lot of things in my daily life.

@temmylade
Adulthood has taught me to be a strong lady, to work harder and be consistent.

Adulthood has taught me that in any condition I have found myself I should not give up.

@temmylade This is a very powerful question.
From my personal experience o, adulthood has brought me into a place of responsibility kai. It has taught me to take charge of my own life and not depend on others the way I did as a child
(no more buying buying for my baby😄).

Similarly, my childhood exposed me to a what I called total dependency always relying on people to provide what I needed. But adulthood has shown me that life can be unpredictable. As children, we often dream of becoming many things, believing everything will go smoothly. But as adults, we discover that life can take unexpected turns...

More so, another important lesson adulthood has taught me is that growth is not always easy. While growing up happens naturally, maintaining adulthood requires strong discipline and patience. As a child, I did not fully understand these values, but now I know they are essential for progress in life..

@chefqueen hmmmm, this question made me smile and shed tears. One of the most important people who have shaped my life into what it has become today are my late parents, though there are others who Are still part of my life till now. They taught me the ways of the Lord as a Christian and corrected me in so many ways that, at the time, I sometimes felt they were not even my real parents because of the level of discipline they gave. I didn’t know then that they were only trying to prune off my excesses as a child.
It was in my adulthood that I realized I used to have many flaws that they had actually corrected. Even though I haven’t completely overcome everything, a large part of me was shaped and refined through their discipline. Now, even when the storms of life, difficulties, and challenges arise, their legacy still stands, and I’m still standing strong. God has been helping me through everything they built into me.

Mom and Dad, rest on🥲🥲. .

These prompts are lovely. Let me drop mine now.

@temmylade, that one thing that adulthood slapped me with and my childhood never prepared me for is simply bills.

As a child, I thought everything worked fine for all the adults around me and so I craved to become an adult real quick. I remember adding figures to my age whenever I was asked outside by acquaintances. This was because I couldn't wait to become an adult.

But as soon I became an adult, I realized that childhood was better. I was shielded, protected and taken care of as a child. Many people have me money but now, it is by God's grace self before you see who dash you #1k.

Despite how I try to clear bills, the bills keep creeping up lie wild grass. I learnt responsibility but I wasn't prepared for the string of bills awaiting me as an adult.

This is one error I'm trying to do away with as a mom. I'm letting my child know that growing up has it's own level of a shackle called bills.

I'm inviting @ozd, @luchyl and @faithwellington to join the conversation.

@tigrace

one decision I made till tomorrow I'll be proud of .... in the wake of 2017, I stepped down from my 20k paying job as a assistant supervisor to pick up a role as a pastry boy with a salary of 14k and hard labour , today that decision has fuel my passion and to expand on my experience as a pastry chef opened me up to numerous opportunities in the baking world

What is something adulthood taught you that childhood never prepared you for?

As a man, people will bill you ehhh, if you like don't hustle

@temmylade adulthood has taught me to be prepared and do things by myself. Knowing that no one will do it for me. Growing up as a child , my parents always provide my needs and wants even my uncles and aunties give me gifts on my birthday. But now in my adulthood, i am the one to provide and take care of my parent and myself too.Because I no that nobody will provide me. And is left for me to work hard to do more exploites.I invite @ozd @kachy2022 and @wongi come join in the conversation.

@tigrace i have made a best decision ever that I am definitely proud of now. This decision I made was when I decided to follow my dream to study arts in the university. I came out successful and I did my masters. Thats what made me whom I am today. If I didn't decide to continue or further my education. I will not have been whom i am today .Looking at my N Y S C certificate alone gives me joy. I am proud of that.

@chefqueen I will not say one person but I will like to say two people who has shaped my life .They are my parent. Their encouragement and their prayers alone really helped me to be whom I am today .as I am their only child and a lady for that matter. Although I am in tears for my mom is late. I love her so much 🙏🏼😭.

Let go

@temmmylade adulthood didn't prepare me for all the bills I have to sort. Everyone expects you to be financially buoyant as an adult and to be well organized.

It's not easy being an adult because everyone looks up to you, and you don't want to disappoint them.

@tigrace, yes, I have a lot of decisions I'm proud of, and one of them is choosing my path in worshipping God in the right way and drawing close to God. I am proud of that decision, and I'm happy to become one of Jehovah's witnesses.

@chefqueen that one person is my mother, and I'm proud of who I am today because of what I learned from her.

My mother is a diligent person and very hardworking. She's also caring and kind. Her resilience and hardworking nature instilled in me the importance of working and making my own money as a woman and not to depend on others.
I invite @ozibaby @amara24 @iquo to participate in this week hot seat. 🔥

@temmylade
Growing up, I had to take care of myself from a young age, handling responsibilities that most kids didn't have. As I grew older, the workload increased, and I often felt restricted. I couldn't enjoy simple pleasures like eating what I wanted, wearing what I liked because your cloth style and shoe will be chose for you, or hanging out with friends. But when I became an adult, I finally tasted freedom. It was liberating! Now, I'm working to overcome the emotional scars of my past and embracing my newfound independence to live life on my own terms.

And secondly is Motherhood, Growing up I cared for many children, which sparked my desire to have my own one day. I thought motherhood would come naturally, given my experience. But when I gave birth, I realized it's so much more than just caring for children. Without support, it can be overwhelming and traumatic. Motherhood is a sweet journey, but it's not easy. The emotional and physical demands can be crushing moreso Motherhood often requires sacrifices and putting others' needs before one's own. It's a selfless act that can be both rewarding and challenging.

@chefqueen
My mom has been that one person that has shaped the woman I am today, she has been the most influential person in my life. Her love, support and guidance have been the foundation upon I have built my life. She is my role model, my has been rock.

She taught me to be hardworking, to be kind and to believe in myself and that with determination and perseverance I can overcome any obstacles.

To day am proud and grateful for the woman my mom has helped me become. I love you mom more than words can express, may God keep healthy and alive. Thank you, am forever grateful and I hope I will make you proud. ❤️🥰

I will love to invite @ekeke, @sahedaakler655 and @ijebest to participate.

@chefqueen
I can't say that I have one particular person that has shaped my life, if I am to pick a special person who has shaped my life it will be myself, and then God.
Because alot has gone on in my life that, it is just God's grace that has been keeping me through it all.
See not gonna lie, I just have been doing life as it takes me with God.

@temmylade, things that my adulthood thought me the my childhood has Naver prepared me for his taken medicines

As a child taking drugs was my biggest challenge and my sister is always there to help me out or my mum will prepare delicious rice for me and once I eat I believe the sickness is gone

But little did I know that in my adulthood I will wake up someday and take myself to the pharmacy get drugs for myself I'll say capital No. But here I am adulthood make me see things differently from my childhood
Am very happy for the way adult things change me.

I will gladly invite @sarahbaby, @mercy22 and @hopestylist to the conversation

@chefqueen, this is a nugget, but all the same, it's answerable.

My maternal grandmother is that very one person that has contributed a lot into my life. She is the one person who has propelled me to become an admirably respected woman of a qualitative characters that I have become today,
as I speak.!

My being her first grandchild, gave her lots of joy, love and an honourable task and responsibilities to be fulfilled about me, and she carefully faced the duty to raise me very well, I'm sure...

She really bent down on giving me the best training ever, which has been entirely different from every other of her grandchildren coming after me.

My parents were living in the township then. My own mother being her first child and her first daughter, my mother loving her own mother deeply also, made my mother decide to keep me living with her mother in the village, while she and the rest of my family members including my father lived in the township as I said earlier.

I was left with my grandmother in the village so that I can just be helping her about home chores as a very little growing up first daughter and the first child of my own parents too.

My grandmother, inculcated into me so much values that has shaped my life and made me stand out and be loved and known as a reputable woman even till as I speak, by all in our immediate and extended families and others.

She pampered me though, as well as trained me with tender love, discipline, and care.

I remember now how she would always seat me down and talked things over with me, teaching me everything precept upon precept, never raising her voice or hand beating me, as is the direct opposite of how many mothers or parents are abusing growing children in this era.

But she'll always make sure that I learned and understood whatever things she wants me to know or understand per time. These days, some mothers or should I say some parents, use abusive words, screaming and shouting at their growing children in the name of training, parents get angry faster now than then.

"Train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old, he will not depart from it"

Says, the Bible, this is exactly my story!.

Many mothers know how to screem and beat up growing children in this generation, forgetting that those are their formative years, their mental understanding and capabilities are being designed and developed, they haven't known or learned everything or lots of things like that adult screaming at them.

They have not known all at that moment, therefore deserves to be talked to and not to be screaming at, talking to someone and shouting messages at someone are not the same.

Children are to be raised with lots of patience, care, discussions and love which will be gradually deposited into their minds and then form whoever they will become in life....there are lots of beatings, screaming and lack of proper nurturing of the growing children today against what raising up responsible children supposed to portray.

Some parents are mostly treating growing children with wickedness rather than building quality values, resilience, intentionality, boldness and poise, into growing children. Thereby, raising intimidated and fear gripped children instead.

My maternal grandmother built up into me, all that has shaped me to become attractive, elegant and many other qualities that many are benefiting from me today.

I'm very much aware of this today as an adult and I have toed her partain to raise my own children and I'm enjoying the peace and quality of values they have grown up to have.

I AM FOREVER GRATEFUL TO MY MATERNAL GRANDMOTHER, SHE DID A GREAT JOB IN RAISING ME UP.

I therefore invite, @joeboi24, @goodysam, @olyde to come and take it up from here.

Thank you all.

@ijebest

@temmylade, what's that something adulthood taught you that childhood never prepared you for?

To be an adult is never a joke. Being an adult loads you with so much,

I mean an uncountable responsibilities, some are juicy while some others are very bitter pills you will wish to vomit out totally and rinse your mouth and tongue with water or sweet juice, yet you can not do that. At adult stage,

"everyone bear their own cross"

You must drink the bitter pills, as bitter as vinegar......

My young and unmarried ladies, I'm not instigating fears into your minds.... oooo 😂,

Nope...,but this is a realistic situation, every to be mothers, must go through, none negotiable.....period !

Mine is child bearing;
as a girl child growing up, everything you needed were provided by others, either your parents, or relatives. You were just there, enjoying your life, looking very beautiful, taking very good care of yourself...

You would never know there's a bitter pills of pregnancy, gestation period and the most painful and complicated of them all is "the push...day!"

As a young girl gets married from traditional marriage to your white wedding, you are the talk of town.

Every other girls around you wants to be you, your husband is extremely excited, you too is extremely excited, dancing and rejoicing.

After wedding you look up to getting pregnant, some will be over selective of what to eat or drink during pregnancy, depending on how it shows up with, because every child you may give birth to has their different ways of showing up.

Some will have some complications, while some others will yet through their gestation period of nine months without any complications.

From that moment the baby in your womb is preparing to manifest into this world, you will actully know that this is of cause the real separation from childhood to adulthood.

"the things that adulthood is teaching you, that your childhood never taught you has appeared" 😂

This is a long route journey you as a woman must go through all alone without anyone taking it over from you.

The doctors and good nurses may try to pet you, console you, even your beloved husband can give you anything at that moment or may promise you lots of goodies,

Yes, but nobody can stop the crampings, pains and the father of them all,

"the push section"

No matter how wealthy, rich or poor any woman is, only her will go through the pains of "the push syndrome".

Even if you are going to do it through caesarean section, it's still on the women's precious, pampered body it will go through.

After that, when she start going through the healing process of her caesarian section of cut up body.

To me, this is the most unseen and unknown senerio adulthood has taught me and every mothers that their childhood never knew that was coming with it's full weight.

I invite, @tigrace, @ivyann, @happy08 to join this conversation.

Thank you for this exceptional question.

@ijebest

@tigrace, what's that one decision I'm proud of making?

Getting married to your friend, your love and someone your mind has accepted whole heartedly is a good decision every one of us has either made or will definitely make now or in the future as God may have it.

I must tell you, I know nobody knows the future or the totality of whom ever you are about to get entangled with in terms of marriage.

Some people do hide their ugly part, pretending to be the best, while they're really not even half of it. Later on in life they will start showcasing the treats of what you never bargained for.

Most men and women have settled with someone they thought was the right person for them, but it later went haywire, don't blame yourself totally about everything that had caused one or two problems or challenges, you never knew it could turn out that way...

Find a way to heal up and organize yourself, decide to make yourself happy again, intentionally create your own happiness. Be alive, joy is coming!

Life is greater and far better than all the hurdles of life put together.

But when God has helped you make a choice, a decision that guarantees what you were looking for, it calls for excitement. Know it and appreciate it.

To me, I thank God for supporting the choice of marriage I made to marry my own husband, many years ago. It's one among may choices I have made and I'm proud of as long as we live.

Marrying my husband is one among many decisions I'm proud to have been able to make accurately.

Thank you all for your time to read through.

@chi4god, @adangwa, @sarahbaby,

I invite you to come and tell us your own story.

@ijebest.

@chefqueen That number one person is no one but my mum. She taught me so many things that has shaped me to become who I am today. There's practically no personality I will portray now that I won't see a trait of my mum in it

@temmylade
Adulthood thought me three things that childhood never open my eyes to that is perental responsibility, perental care, and perental advice .
When I was a child responsibility was taken care by my parents infact there was a parental care, and parental advice.
But as I get to adulthood no more parental care again, responsibility are led in my shoulder and now I advice myself to the right part of life .

@temmylade
Childhood didn't prepare me for the kind of hustle I am facing now

@tigrace
One of the decision I chose that Iam proud of even today is the decision to acquire a technical skill, it has helped me today and even will help me in the future.
When I was through with my secondary school , due to financial deficiency I can't further my education and I made a decision of learning a technical skill that Iam proud of, for a better life.

@chefqueen
My greetings and acknowledgement goes to my parents and my teacher and mentor who taught me in my secondary school days. They are the ones who made me what Iam today in any aspect of life, academically, behavior and social, what ever good you can think about .