Pursuing a Shadow: My Story of College Love and Regret

We say love is beautiful and, at the same time, blind. Then how do we know it’s beautiful if we can’t see? The topic of love gets so many people confused. This week, we want you to share your experiences with us. Have you ever been in love?

To love is to suffer, and to avoid suffering, one must not love.
Hmm! But Jesus has taught me to love. I would love… I would love…
Hmm! Apart from family love and all! Guys! Love na scam if we no get money. I believe love can only really be expressed when there is money.

Have I ever been in love? Yes.

Let me tell you my love story and how I regret it till now. That was a one-sided love.

There was this beautiful girl I loved while in college. I really loved her to the extent that I gave her my pocket money. I bought her food, took care of her, gave her occasional data, and many more. She always came to my house and ate in my house. I was passionate about her academics; it was my number one priority. I took time to teach her because her grades were not really cool, but I helped her. But all of a sudden, she began to play hard to get and refused to pick my calls and all.

I blocked, unblocked, blocked, apologized, and many more. I was a baller then. I had to watch YouTube tutorials on love and many others. But here comes the big thing: there was this long academic strike, and we never met until after the strike. I did call her a couple of times, but she got tired. I gave up. I sat down like a sitting duck, wishing to get the best, forcing myself to forget her. Soon, I had an accident that nearly claimed my life. I told her about it, and she gave a cold response. That was the time I gave it up, never ever to think about her and to focus on my academics.

In school one night, while I was rushing to school, I slipped and fell down. A guy said sorry and helped me up, but the other person, a female, was silently laughing. Lo and behold, she had a boyfriend who bought her food and all. He is quite rich, and she preferred him. I learnt my lesson. I promised myself never to date anyone until I have attained riches or, to some certain level, become a stable being.

We met at a concert where the question was about love and money in one of these churches. We were told to choose between love and money; however, she chose money and I chose love. But at that point, I reconfirmed that I had been pursuing a shadow all along.

What are the outcomes of not following love at the end of it all?

I graduated with a first class.

I became more religious and closer to God.

I became an icon for special recognition.

I had better focus.

I prevented myself from unnecessary feeding and running emotions.

In Nigeria, there is this guy called Geh Geh. He is recently talking about love, and I accept his idea that you should not invest in any lady until you are married.

I add to or top this: don’t love blindly because love cannot put money on the table. If you are to choose between love and money, choose money.

Thanks.
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Nigerian TikToker, GehGeh. Photo credit: X/ GehGeh