You Are Allowed to Outgrow People Without a Dramatic Reason
I have lost touch with people i used to call my closest friends and there was no fight attached to any of it. No betrayal. No single moment i could point to and explain clearly. We just slowly stopped fitting the way we used to.
For a long time that bothered me more than an actual conflict would have. At least conflict gives you a story. A reason you can repeat to people who ask what happened. This had nothing clean to hold onto. Just two people who grew in different directions and one day noticed the conversations had gotten shorter and the effort had quietly disappeared from both ends.
We are taught that real friendships are supposed to last forever. That walking away without a clear villain in the story means something must have gone wrong, that someone failed somewhere. So people stay connected to relationships that have already ended in every way except officially, simply because there is no tidy explanation available for leaving.
But people grow at different speeds. Want different things at different points in life. Need different kinds of support depending on the season they are in. None of that requires betrayal to justify distance. Sometimes the most honest explanation is just that you both became different people, and the friendship that worked for who you used to be no longer fits who you are now.
That is not a tragedy. It is just life doing what it naturally does.
I think a lot of unnecessary guilt comes from expecting every ending to look dramatic and justified. In reality most endings are quiet. Gradual. Nobody did anything wrong. The connection simply ran its course the same way certain seasons do without anyone deciding it.
You do not owe anyone a long explanation for outgrowing them. You do not need to manufacture a villain to justify needing space. Sometimes the kindest and most honest thing you can do is let something end quietly without forcing a dramatic reason onto it that was never really there.
Some people are meant for one chapter, not the whole book.
That was always allowed.
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