I Don’t Like Wahala ; Understanding My Quiet Strength

Have you ever look at yourself and wonder why you behave the way you do, even when others don’t understand it? Why you don’t like noise, argument, or anything that brings wahala? That was how I started to notice something different about myself. I wasn’t acting like most people around me. I just enjoy my peace of mind and stay cool with everybody. That’s when I started hearing something called temperament, and honestly, understanding mine has helped me a lot in life

Temperament simply means the natural way someone behaves, think and feel , something you're born with. It’s not something you fake or try to copy, it's part of you naturally

From what I’ve discovered about myself, I have a mix of phlegmatic and melancholic temperament, with a little touch of sanguine. What does that mean? Well, I’m naturally a very calm person. I don’t like shouting, fighting or dragging issues with people. I prefer peace over being right. Even when someone offends me, I hardly react quickly. I just let it go or stay quiet. But at the same time, there are some small-small things that can annoy me, things others won’t even expect will touch me like that. But I forgive fast too. I don’t carry grudge

I discovered this part of me properly around my late teens. Maybe like 18 or 19. Before then, I always felt like I was too soft or too quiet compared to others. But as I grow, I begin to see that it's actually part of what makes me unique. It helped me understand myself better. I now know why I don't like noisy places, why I enjoy deep conversations, and why I prefer calm gist over loud talk. And honestly, it has saved me from so many unnecessary troubles in life

Does it fit my personality? I’ll say yes. My temperament matches the kind of lifestyle I naturally flow with. People say I’m gentle and tolerant, and they enjoy being around me because I don’t stress anyone. When I’m comfortable, I open up more and bring out the playful side of me. That’s the small sanguine part that shows when I’m with the right people

But if I must be honest, there are things I wish I could change small. Like how I can sometimes overthink things quietly without talking. Or how I react to small-small things emotionally. I don’t like that part much. I’ve been learning to work on it by expressing myself more and not keeping things in too long. It’s not easy, but it’s getting better gradually

In summary, knowing your temperament helps you understand your strength and weakness. It also helps you relate with people better because you won’t expect everyone to behave like you. I now give people more grace and also protect my peace. Life is really easier when you understand yourself

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