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‎In this life it's only few people and those who understands friendship that knows what It means to make yourself available. I told a friend of mine some years back that making myself available dose not mean I don't have things to do or where to go or other issues to attend to. It was just because I value friendship a lot, but she started taking it for granted.
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‎This lady had been my friend for years, anytime she is in a little problem and needed my help, I will try as much as I can to go and assist her. Anytime she has an event and called for help, I will always try to include her event in my schedule. But this is one human that has never devoted her time for my event. But did I consider all that ? No. I only did what I did with an open mind. So one day I was discussing something with her, a business that I wanted her to try and join, since she didn't have something reasonable doing as at that time. But she told me things that will be a bit hard to forget. After saying all those things, she said to me , that I should go ahead and do the business, that when she needs the help she will call me. At that point, I didn't say a word because I was so annoyed. I maintained my steeze, I told her it's fine. She observed the way I answered, and asked hope no problem. I told her that there is no problem.
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‎I left. it was not up to 3 months, she called for a serious assistant, I told her that I was engaged with other activities, that I can't assure her of being of help. After about 3 days she chatted up and was complaining that I have changed. That was not even my problem. After some months, she had a big event and invited, also sent reminder. I had an event too to attend that same day, but her event was no longer my priority. I attended the one my mind was fixed to attend, I went back home and rest.
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‎The truth is , people will always notice when you adjust , set boundaries and prioritize your time, but will take for granted the free time and access that you gave to them.