Some Goodbyes Save Us

Hello great friends, Happy New Year to you all.

When I first saw the prompt for the week, I just had to pause, reflect and smiled. I never really wanted to talk about it because talking about it will only reopen the old wounds that are trying to heal but I guess I just have to write about it maybe it will help me heal better.

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Initially when I never had any experience I would always say “I can never cry over any relationship that ends, after all life moves on” but when I finally got to experience it personally, it hits really hard and I now understand better too.

Okay, down to the main gist, just before the year ended on the 30th of December 2025, I had to let go of a friend, not just any friend but a very close one. Yeah! It hurts and I cried so deeply but I think that was the safer option, that was the best thing I did for me.

We have been together for about five good years now, all these while we grew together, inspired each other to become better.

To me the person was not just a friend but my safe place, someone I could pour out how I truly felt, someone I could lean on and be sure I won’t slip, to me the person was my confidant, we did a lot, we quarreled together, laughed together and all of that.

But I guess last year was different, I don’t know but something was off, the energy wasn’t there any more, we could stay for days and weeks without talking and that was weird. We talked about it and it got better but after some days it went back to being worse.

I don’t want to go into so much details but a lot happened, the person became so self-centered and everything was about the person alone, about the person’s happiness, life, choice and everything. I doubt if the person ever thought about me for some seconds, I mean everything changed and I could not force anything because it obviously wasn’t my fault. Eventually, I was ghosted for weeks, and that’s when I knew the line had been drawn.

So gradually our five years relationship just got broken just like that and we ended it. I can remember how hurt I felt, I felt so lonely and down for weeks, I kept feeling like I made the wrong choice by choosing to end things, I kept thinking if I would ever see someone that would be like the person ever again.

I wanted regretting it but no I had to move on and continue with my life, just that some things are not just meant to be forever. Not everyone you fell connected with is meant to be, some relationships are just meant for a season and when the time is up the would always use the exit and life still moves on and the earlier we accept that fact the better we be at peace with ourselves.

It hurt and I cried but I still thank God I ended it and I am happy I opened a new chapter this year, a new chapter to choose my peace over chaos, to choose clarity over confusion. I don’t regret it at all, life would always continue regardless.

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