The Concept of Money and the Complexities Around It
Money is a powerful tool; a medium of exchange, a store of value, and a necessary part of survival in today’s world. But beyond its economic function, money carries emotional weight and social expectations, especially within families and close relationships.
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One of the things I’ve noticed is how difficult it is for some people to give. Generosity, contrary to what many think, isn't just about how much you have. It's about the mindset; the willingness to share, even when you don't have much. For some, the fear of lack or past experiences of being used makes them hold back. For others, it’s simply selfishness.
On the other side of the coin are those who act entitled, people who feel like you owe them something even when they haven’t worked for it. In many cases, this entitlement comes from family members, particularly immediate family. And truthfully, I understand why. In times of trouble, it's usually family, not friends or outsiders, who show up. I’m not referring to families torn apart by conflict. I’m talking about families who are united, who do things together, and stand for each other.
Just recently, I was on the phone with one of my brothers. I had sent him a link to register for a job opportunity in Lagos State. Knowing him, he’s more of a “street-smart” person, someone who doesn’t like working under others. He does have some financial backup, so I was surprised when he said he had lost money in forex trading and needed help until the end of next month when he expected to have money again.
I had to be honest with him: I’m barely surviving myself.
Another friend of mine works with a company that distributes palm kernel. I also shared the same job opportunity with her, thinking she might be interested in working in a government role. Her response? “Business is better than receiving a salary.” I replied, “You need money to start a business in the first place. Even if you're taking a loan, you still need a steady income to support it.”
We need to rethink our mindset about money. The idea that money is evil should be erased. Money, in itself, is neutral. It's neither good nor bad. What makes the difference is what people do with it. If you use money for good — to invest in people, to support yourself, to build a business, or help a community, it becomes a blessing. But if it's used recklessly or for harm, then yes, it becomes a tool for evil.
In the end, it's not about having money; it's about understanding its purpose.