The Skill That Earned Praise—and Stole My Peace
There are a lot of things that we need to be taking care of in our life and that process we get better and doing certain things in comparison to the other one when our life which is something that often becomes our strength or something that we are known for and that is something that we usually are very much proud of a skill because it is providing as a lot of results as well.
But at the same time there can be some situations when the thing that we are good at is also the one that is holding us back or also in certain cases the reason why it is slowly destroying us which is something that is a Peculiar aspect to think but surely something that happens as well because we are doing something without any fault and that is something that we are very skillful at. Still, surely it is having some negative impact on us.
One such thing for me is going to be perfectionist as well because it's is going to be making me feel that I should be doing everything just the right way and that is an happy to which I have developed over the years which is something that I am pretty good at because that particular mindset in regardless of whatever the situation is and I try to make everything perfect to the best of my knowledge.
There is nothing that can be anything close to average or even good enough in my action because I always look forward towards the absolute best that can be achieved which is something that has grown with me very much and I have also heard from people that have observed me that this has been a trade that has been a part of me for a very long period. Over time, this has only gotten deeper and is something that has become a very fundamental part of my thinking process.
All of this got triggered because of a little bit of fear that I had with the flaws that I might possess as one as also the fear of being ordinary is something that was very much high in me and there were a lot of other environment as well that I grew open which made me believe that if I was not flawless I would not be someone who would be talked about and also someone who is going to be again that people will look up to and that has been something that I have always believed in which has made me feel like finding perfection in everything.
But over the years it has been something that has actually sucked out quite a lot from me and there have been a lot of drawbacks that I never really notice for a very long period because it has been like a silent Destroyer that has been existing within my ownself which I have been promoting quite a lot as something that is a positive thing to be having which it was not.
It made me over critical of everything and I tried to just over analyse everything even if there was no need to be doing it and sometimes it is okay to not degree per in everything but due to my habits I couldn't help but go for deeper then actually required and it affected my performance as well as a lot of other aspect as well that are very important in everyone's life which made me loose a lot of opportunity is and much value in front of many people as well.
Perfectionism is surely something that I am very good at and has been so for a very long period which has made me extremely skillful in hunting for things how to achieve the perfect state of that particular thing but in exchange it has never given me much of a positive outcome but carrying it has surely had a lot of negative sights that I never really paid much attention to which has been something and even if I am very good at it been a negative thing to carry.
I have slowly understood that it is something that is surely not a good thing to be applying in every single scenario because forcing everything to be perfect his not going to be the best way I had and that has made me change a lot of habits in myself and the belief system that I had about finding perfection is also something that I am trying to let go slowly.
Every single day I am just looking forward to be much more software in my approach with everything that I carry out in every aspect of my life and that has been immensely helpful to not be over critical and make my relationship a lot more better as well as my mental speed has been much less stressed in comparison to what it used to be because of my actions in average single activities that I used to be involved in to just look for been perfect.
This whole aspect has also made me realise that even if we are good at something and people are praising as for it as well it even then can have the capability to be a negative thing to carry in our life which is something that we need to understand and also act accordingly because when we are very much good and something we often try to extract the most benefits out of it but in reality it may be causing much more harm than good.
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