RE: Men and Women aren’t equal.
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At 14, I was already living alone and making my own decisions. It’s crazy when I think about it now because no one stopped me or seemed worried if anything happened. After all, I was the boy child.
I was talking to a lady who’s over 24. She mentioned that she lives alone, and I asked her about it more than once in different conversations. She got offended because she felt I didn’t see her that way. The truth is, when she first said it, I was a bit skeptical. Even at 24, she still seemed like a girl to me, and I could sense her struggle. I just couldn’t imagine her parents allowing that. But I was wrong, and yes, she can live on her own. It’s just the way the narrative has always been shaped.
Another thing is the emotional aspect. Women are quick to use words like manipulation and gaslight, and most social trends tend to favor a complaining woman. As men, we have learned to move on quickly even when we are hurt. We have learned to carry certain burdens because it is seen as normal. So most times, I understand when people say men hurt a lot more than women and are more misunderstood too.
Are we equal? I can’t say for sure, but I don’t think men are valued enough for the struggles they face growing up. Let me not even talk about a man without money because that is an entirely different story 🤣
I get you. If it was years ago, I doubt I would agree with you. But I have had the experience of watching a man struggle from scratch and boy, I do have it easy as a lady in certain situations. And I have been thinking about it.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m strange for thinking it’s time we moved past this “women empowerment” era and just focus on the persons. Yes, there’s a call for change but I’m beginning to think that this is limiting other people. I will be a mother someday and the last thing I want is for my son to feel like he’d be a burden to me. I do get that men tend to shoulder things alone but I want to be a source not a liability if you know what I mean.
Everywhere I see women empowerment and I hardly see men empowerment popping up. Most opportunities these days are about women and now I’m beginning to ask questions. Not like I’m putting less value on the women/girl child in anyway but if we continue like this, the next generation will grow with the mindset that men are to sort themselves out which is not necessarily true.
I think this is the main reason we have men now lacking in plenty aspects of their lives. They had no guides. The guides they chose are actually questionable. This shouldn’t be normalized as it is now.