Do Not Build A Life You Need To Escape From

Life is not supposed to be endured, rather it is supposed to be lived with purpose, fulfilment, and balance. A friend of mine was once offered a job with a construction company which was in line with what he studied. Then another company offered him a job with a very higher pay. He chose the one with a higher pay, even though he did not really like the job, and that was where his problem started from. Over time, he became very unhappy in the job, drained, and always looking forward to holidays and weekends, just to escape from the work. He chose money over purpose and it created some very negative consequences for him. He built a life that he also wanted to escape from.

You will be surprised how a lot of people live for the weekends, look forward for public holidays, or even look for ways to get away from their daily life, just like the case of my friend that I talked about earlier. The truth about it is that that particular mindset just reveals one very vital truth that they may not even know; they built a life that they want to escape from. Imagine enduring life when it should be enjoyed and lived with purpose. The goal is not to escape from your life, rather it is build a life that you will never need to run away from. In fact, if you see yourself always trying to get away from where you are, then it means you might be in a wrong place.

If you find yourself being drained by your daily routines, or it frustrates you, and leaves you with a kind of feeling of emptiness, then it means that something needs to change. The change could be in your work, your environment, your habits, or even in your mindset. It is true that you should not except everyday to be perfect, but everyday should not feel like a burden that you need to avoid. If you are doing what your mind does not align with, or the things that do not align with your purpose, it may feel like a burden.

One of the things that make people want to escape from the life they build is lack of intentionality. They just follow a path without really thinking deeply what they want. For example, they choose a career based on convenience, they stay in environment that limit them, or they even adopt a habit that does not allow them to grow. Over time, all these things will accumulate, and will make them to feel disconnected from the life that they truly want. There is almost nothing as frustrating as doing something you do not want but you are only forcing yourself to follow after the path.

You should also prioritise your long-term fulfilment over short-term comfort. For example, it may feel safer, or easier to stay in a familiar situation even if it is not fulfilling. But in the long run, the comfort may become a trap that will keep the person stagnated. If you avoid the necessary and required changes, you will delay your growth and put yourself in a cycle of dissatisfaction. This is why you have to know when to take the required step, and be clear about it. You should know what you want, not what you feel like, and then go for it.

Building a life that you need will require clarity. You have to know what truly matters to you; things like your value, your goals, and the kind of life you want to live. When you are clear about all these, your decisions will become more informed and more intentional. It will also become easier for you to align your daily actions with your long-term purpose and vision. You also need the courage to act. This is because you may need to take some forms of risk or the other, so you need courage to do so. Making changes may become uncomfortable; you may need to stop certain habits, stop certain lifestyles, move out from familiar environment, cut off from certain friends, etc. Growth requires you to let go of things that do not add positively to you, and welcome the things that align with your purpose.

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