Steering Clear Of Unnecessary Drama.

As much as people want to be kept abreast of things happening around them, I believe it's not everything we have to be actively involved in. Sometimes we need to avoid some situations, not because we don't know what to say or do but it's best to steer clear of them. There are some things that I do try as much as possible to avoid, one of them is internet drama.

Social media drama is a No-no for me. Most of the time, people get so emotional about some topics and there would end up being back and forth verbal altercation between them. I just avoid situations like that as I don't like getting all tangled up in it.

Most of the time, topics on religion and gender often spark heated debates. Everyone just wants to be right and some people are just keypad warriors so I often wonder why anyone would want to keep on arguing with them. I get that not everyone would agree with whatever has been posted but try to disagree in a calm and respective manner.

Whenever I come across things an interesting post, I would read and give my opinion but if anyone disagrees with what I may have said, it's fine with me, I respect and value constructive criticism but when I receive insults or harsh feedbacks, I won't even bother replying the person no matter the level of insult thereby putting an end to any further conservation.

Another thing I like to very much avoid is repeatedly advising someone in love. Ha! I have learned from personal experiences to zip my mouth and just let the person go with whatever they decide.

I remembered an acquaintance of mine, Dammy, we were close for some time, she was kind of cool which drew us close to each other. As time went by, we started visiting each other. Well, she did most of the visiting because her boyfriend stays around my community but still very far from my house.

When she introduced me to her boyfriend, Tolu, I just smiled. He doesn't know me but I knew him because his reputation precedes him. He is a womanizer. I knew the guy isn't a “serious relationship" kind of guy because he had dated two ladies in my area and they used to insult each other because of him, sometimes the arguments would become very heated as they would hurl hurtful words at each other.

This was how I and others found out the cause of their constant arguments. They eventually came to their senses and broke it off with him. I struggled with telling Dammy what I knew about the guy but I decided, I’d let her figure it out herself as I don't want to be the reason why they don't end up together.

One day she came crying to me about how the guy had been cheating on her left, right, center and asked for my advice.

“Well, that's for you to decide. If he's unfaithful to you why y'all are still dating, what'd you think would happen when if you get married?”, I said, leaving the decision to her to make.

“I'm going to break up with him, he doesn't deserve me”, she said, fighting back the tears threatening to fall down her cheeks.

“But I love him”, she said again, sighing deeply. I looked at her and shook my head. Part of me already knew she would still go back to him.

I wasn't surprised when I saw the two of them at a supermarket buying some groceries. I wanted to call her name but I did something else instead, I called her on the phone, what I planned on doing was telling her to turn around so she could see me and like you guessed. She looked at the caller on her screen and hissed, putting it on silent mode.

“Who's that?I overheard her boyfriend asking her. She took her phone and showed him the caller and he also hissed, while she dropped her phone in her bag. I watched the whole thing unfold before my eyes like it's a movie. “Well played”, I laughed inside of me. I figured there was no need calling her name and I just went on with my shopping.

That situation and some others made me finally promise myself there and then to stay off relationship dramas especially when the love is intoxicating them.

So whenever anyone that's not my family member brings relationship issues to me seeking advice, I'd just tell them to follow whatever their heart is telling them because most of the time, they really know what they have to do.

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