Hello friends of this community; One of the things I have learned in life is that you cannot cling to the past, and at the same time expect a different future to move forward, you have to learn to say “goodbye” and this happens with everyone in relationships, at work, and yes, when you walk away from someone you will inevitably feel nostalgic, but many times you don't miss the person themselves so much, but rather the feeling you had when you were with them.

I remember that when I made the decision to leave my job I spent days wondering if I was doing the right thing, in the process many doubts appeared, here's the funny thing, when you leave something behind your mind only remembers the good, then I remembered the comfort, I remembered the routine, the peace of mind of knowing that every month I had my guaranteed salary and it wasn't until later that I realized that in reality I didn't miss the job itself but the feeling of security it gave me and the same thing happens in relationships, sometimes you don't miss the person but the habit, the idea that it represented. in your life.

The problem is that if you confuse nostalgia with love you can end up returning to a place that is no longer yours, the truth is that letting go will never, ever be easy, we will always wonder if we are doing the right thing, there will always be fear, there will always be doubts, but the key question here is “am I staying because I want to or because I am afraid to leave?”

And here comes the difficult part, many people want to move on without feeling pain, but it doesn't work that way, you have to let it hurt because if you don't allow yourself to feel you will always find a reason to come back, it is part of the process, it is not a punishment, it is a transition, it is when you accept, when you give yourself permission to feel, to close that stage, that is when you can really move on and sometimes the problem is not that the situation is bad, but that you become so attached to what you have that it is difficult for you to imagine yourself somewhere else.

Letting go of the known is always scary, even if we know that there is something better waiting for us, when I left my job to give the same example I wondered if it had really been a good idea to take the risk, but after 3 years I can say that yes, it was, if I had not taken that step today I would not be where I am, you cannot move forward without letting go, you cannot stay in one place and at the same time expect your life to change, you have to choose and choosing inevitably means leaving something behind because of that.

When you feel afraid when letting go of something, a relationship, a job, a stage in your life, remember that fear is not a sign that you have made a mistake, it is part of the process. You have to let it hurt, you have to redefine what you experienced. You cannot escape from that emotion because if you ignore it, you will always find an excuse to return and there will be days when nostalgia hits you more and you wonder if I would have stayed" and "if..." but that's when you have to remember why you made the decision in the first place because deep down your heart knew when you had to leave and there is a phrase that says more or less, do not live with nostalgia for the choices you did not make, if you decide to leave, do not torture yourself thinking about what could have happened if you had stayed and if you decide to stay do not torture yourself thinking about what you would have experienced if you had chosen to leave choose.

You have to commit to that choice, you can't play on both sides at the same time that only leads to self-deception and getting trapped in a cycle of doubt, of meaningless regret, so at this moment, if you feel like you need to move on, listen to yourself, because only your heart knows if the time to leave has really come and you know it, maybe you still don't know how to move on, maybe you still have a hard time letting go, but within you you already have the answer and when nostalgia, doubt or sadness comes, remember your Purpose, remember why you made that decision, that has to be bigger than fear because that certainty is what will sustain you when everything else seems to falter.

And here is the secret, eventually things fall into place, doubts dissipate, opportunities arrive and then you understand that this entire process had a purpose, so do not let fear paralyze you, go with fear, but go because no one moves forward expecting to not feel anything, the feeling will be there and you will have to learn to manage it, but what I can assure you is that if you keep going, one day you will look back and realize that it was all worth it.