The best way to say is to do / La mejor forma de decir es hacer (eng-esp)

Hello, Reachout friends. I'm back in the community to participate in Contest #49 and answer this week's question.

I have two children: a girl, the youngest, and a boy, the firstborn. I was raised under the sexist premise of the time when girls were raised one way and boys another.
I don't think the same.
I'm the kind of father who raises and educates by example. I can't teach them that we all have the same rights and obligations, that we are all equal, if I don't treat them equally.

Of course, equality is not the same as egalitarianism. My daughter has a different age, personality, and way of thinking than my son. Therefore, within equality, I respect their individuality.

I empower their personality, their individual values. I encourage them to think for themselves, to be free of thought.

I teach them to think, to love their neighbors, to respect.

I also educate them under the premise of work and study. That should always be their priority: study and work.
My daughter is not yet of working age, but she knows that, like her brother, she has to study, pursue a university degree (her mother and I pay for it), and become independent.
That doesn't mean she has to leave home. She can live with us forever if she wants (we do); I'm talking about financial independence.
When you want to buy something, treat yourself, if you pay for it with your own hard work, you'll value it more than anything you give away.
Every parent has gone through those stages where their children neglect things they worked so hard to acquire. That's why I teach them to have their own things and to take care of others' things.

I teach them to look to the future.

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Their mother and I make sure they are good people. That they are men and women with academic and life skills.
We teach them to stay away from mediocrity.
I want them to always strive to be the best in everything they set out to do.

I don't know if they will be the leaders of the future, but they will be the leaders of their lives, of their future.

Their mother and I work and think only of them, of giving them a future. But our job is to lay the foundation for the future, but their job will be to build it in their own way and with their own work.

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Spanish Version

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Hello, Reachout friends. I'm back in the community to participate in contest #49 and answer this week's question.

I have two children: a girl, the youngest, and a boy, the firstborn. I was raised under the sexist premise of the time when girls were raised one way and boys another.

I don't think the same.
I'm the kind of father who raises and educates by example. I can't teach them that we all have the same rights and obligations, that we are all equal, if I don't treat them equally.

Of course, equality is not the same as egalitarianism. My daughter has a different age, personality, and way of thinking than my son. Therefore, within equality, I respect their individuality.

I empower their personality, their individual values. I encourage them to think for themselves, to be free of thought.

I teach them to think, to love their neighbors, to respect.

I also raise them based on the premise of work and study. That should always be their priority: study and work.
My daughter isn't of working age yet, but she knows that, like her brother, she has to study, pursue a university degree (her mother and I are paying for it), and become independent.
That doesn't mean she'll have to leave home. She can live with us forever if she wants (we do); I'm talking about financial independence.
When she wants to buy something, treat herself, if she pays for it with her work, she'll value it more than something she receives as a gift.
Every parent has gone through those stages where our children neglect things that cost us a lot of effort to acquire. That's why I teach them to have their own things and to take care of others' things.

I teach them to look to the future.

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Their mother and I make sure they are good people. That they are men and women with academic and life skills.
We teach them to stay away from mediocrity.
I want them to always strive to be the best in everything they set out to do.
I don't know if they will be the leaders of the future, but they will be the leaders of their future, life, of the future.

Their mother and I work and think only of them, of giving them a future. We teach them by example.

But our job is to lay the foundation for the future, but their job will be to build it in their own way and with their own work.

I invite @iamberenice and @roswelborges to participate in this initiative.

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Versión en español

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Hola, amigos de Reachout. Estoy de vuelta en la comunidad para participar en el concurso #49 y responder a la pregunta de esta semana.

Tengo dos hijos, una hembra, la menor y un varón, el primogénito. Fui criado bajo la premisa machista de la época en que la hembra se criaba de una manera y el varón de otra.
Yo no pienso igual.
Soy del tipo de padre que cría y educa con el ejemplo. No puedo enseñarles a que todos tenemos los mismos derechos y obligaciones, a que todos somos iguales, si no los trato de igual manera.

Por supuesto, igualdad no es lo mismo que igualitarismo. Mi hija tiene una edad, carácter y forma de pensar distinta a la de mi hijo. Por tanto, dentro de la igualdad, les respeto su individualidad.

Les potencio su personalidad, sus valores individuales. Los exhorto a que piensen por sí mismos, a ser libres de pensamiento.

Les enseño a pensar, a querer al prójimo, a respetar.

También los educo bajo la premisa del trabajo y el estudio. Esa debe ser siempre su prioridad: estudiar y trabajar.
Aún mi hija no está en edad de trabajo, pero sabe que, al igual que el hermano, tiene que estudiar, hacer una carrera universitaria (su madre y yo la pagamos) e independizarse.
Con eso no quiere decir que se vaya de la casa. Puede vivir con nosotros para siempre si quiere (nosotros queremos), hablo de independencia monetaria.
Cuando desee comprarse algo, darse un gusto, si lo paga con su trabajo, va a valorarlo más a lo que sea regalado.
Todo padre hemos pasado por esas etapas en que nuestros hijos descuidan cosas que nos costó mucho esfuerzo conseguirlas. Por eso les enseño a tener lo suyo propio y a cuidar lo de los demás.

Los enseño a mirar al futuro.

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Su madre y yo nos preocupamos por que sean personas de bien. Que sean un hombre y una mujer con preparación académica y para la vida.
Los enseñamos a que se alejen de la mediocridad.
Quiero que siempre busquen ser los mejores en todo lo que se propongan hacer.
No sé si serán los líderes del futuro, pero sí los líderes de su vida, de su futuro.

Su madre y yo trabajamos y pensamos solo en ellos, en darles un futuro. Les enseñamos con nuestro ejemplo.
Pero nuestro trabajo es cimentar el futuro, pero su trabajo será construirlo a su modo y con su trabajo.

Invito a @iamberenice y a @roswelborges a participar en esta iniciativa.