The Art of Doing Nothing: Rebuilding a Relationship with Yourself

In today's digital age, everyone has a screen in their hands. Sometimes a phone, sometimes a laptop, sometimes a tablet, and they start comfortably and end up scrolling on the phone at night, and sometimes it seems that life has become smart in just one screen. Maybe that's why we are getting away from ourselves. Till when will we keep running behind this digital world and not be able to find time for ourselves? Have you ever thought about how many things we miss while spending time on the screen? A simple thing is to sit with yourself without any notifications, without any vibrations, just with yourself and in today's times, all this has become difficult. We are afraid of our silence. That is why whenever we get some time, we immediately pick up the phone. Perhaps we want to avoid talking to ourselves.

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Social media is a strange world where everyone wants to show that their life is so perfect, and everyone is tired on the inside. We too become a part of that crowd. While scrolling, we try to change our mood. But peace comes when we take some time just for ourselves. By talking about time, I do not mean a small meeting with oneself and we are sitting with our friends and family, but still everyone is busy on their phones. Perhaps that is why we feel disconnected despite being connected. Perhaps if we understand the value of time within ourselves, we can bring better presence in our relationships as well. Only when we are emotionally healthy with ourselves are we able to make a true connection with others as well.

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When the screen time increases, not just the eyes but the heart also gets tired. Watching someone else's life all the time, we ignore our feelings. Perhaps this is why anxiety and stress have become the biggest words of today. But do we ever think that if we could take out some time for ourselves? How good it would be for us if we kept the screen aside for a while.

We know that everything, studies, communication, is connected to the screen, so it is difficult to stay away from it. But it is possible to create a corner of your own in between. Where there is only you and no one else. Maybe an hour in the morning without the phone, maybe an hour of work in the evening without any podcast, time with just yourself can be short, but the impact is deep. My time does not always mean meditation and sometimes you just have to sit on the balcony with a cup of tea or write your heart out in a diary. It means remembering your childhood by listening to an old song. Whatever brings us closer to ourselves is me time, and it can be different for everyone.

The problem of screen time increases when it becomes a habit, when we pick up the phone without any reason, and when we check social media in our free moments. Then we give a break to our brain, which makes us even more tired. Sometimes we feel that we are relaxed, but such relaxation happens when we listen to our inner voice and not that of any influence, but if we create a little space in our routine, where there is no role of the screen, then gradually we get clarity. We get time to understand our thoughts. When we spend some time without any screen, then real creativity comes out. Often, writers, artists or thinkers can come up with the best ideas when they spend time alone, without any digital interruption.

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Many times, we make our me-time selfish. But the truth is that understanding ourselves and spending time by ourselves is a part of self-love, and until we understand our needs, we cannot help anyone else, and this is just like the oxygen masks in an aeroplane. First, wear yours, then help others. My time is those oxygen scales. For us, maintaining balance in the digital album has become a skill for the health system and just like a patent is required for any scale, a patent is required for this too. Effort is required. Initially, it seems difficult; we don't pick up the phone. We used to find it difficult to sit without a screen. When we get into this practice, we realise how beautiful the world is even without a screen. There are so many ways to entertain ourselves, so many feelings that we used to suppress.

Time can keep us grounded, and when everything is moving fast, then it becomes a bus mutton. At this time, we reflect on it. We recharge and remember the clear course of our lives. When we live only in the digital world, then we do external things, and when we live for ourselves, then we export our inner world. If we make a schedule of 10 minutes a day, a fixed time when we spend 10 minutes just with ourselves. If we understand ourselves, then these thoughts can have a huge effect on us. They can also bring perspective to your entire life.

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