A New City, A New Life: My Journey Away from Home
There comes a time in every person's life when we have to go to another city for studies or work, and it is a very tough decision for us because at that time we have to leave our family, our friends, and the people around us and go to another city to work and adjust to that place, so it is a tough decision in life, because there comes a time when we need someone, but no one is there, because Amrit is in a new city and no one recognizes us. We do not know anyone. So we went to the city, and adjusting there is a very difficult task, very much so.
This is what happened to me. I too had to leave my parents and go to Orissa to complete my studies because I got admission to a university in Orissa, and I had to leave all my friends, family, and everyone else. The first three or four months were very difficult. I did not understand the local language, and the traditional fruits and vegetables were different. I did not like that food, so the first three or four months were very difficult, and I felt very bad during this time. Sometimes I feel like crying because there was no one around. I always felt lonely. They were my college friends, but they would go to their homes after college or live in a PG. I was not as open with them because I did not like them that much. I mean, I felt very bad.
The biggest problem I faced was with stationery. My best friend was in a different city, and I am in a different city. If I had ever faced any problem before, then I was more than that. I used to find a solution, or whenever I had to go somewhere, I used to take him along, but now that I am in a different place, I cannot come. This is the biggest problem, and I had become very used to it. Whenever I was going anywhere, I used to take him along. I used to like it too. I enjoyed his company a lot. But I had to go for studies with him because my future was brighter there than here. Whenever I get a chance, I always come to Kolkata.
The most difficult thing was that I was not able to understand the locals properly. The language there is different. A different kind of Bengali is spoken there, which is Oriya Bengali, but I do not understand it, and the food is very different. I did not like that food that much. Of course, if you are going to a new place, then you like the food there. But I did not like the local food that much, and the food there was also very dirty. It was very bad, so I would miss my mother a lot because my mother is a very good cook and cooks very good food, so seeing all this, I felt like crying a lot. Sometimes because I neither get good food nor do I have any friends. I do not know anyone local. If anyone was upset with you, I had to fight with myself against that thing.
But this is not the worst thing because if you learn to fight yourself, then this is also a plus point for you in terms of survival. I live in another city. I live there even today, but now I have learned to understand the local people there. If I start speaking the local language, then I complete it there. This has become a skill for me, so when I go there and anyone goes with me, then I will be able to easily explain to him where to stay. Which place to eat from. Which place has more scams? Where not to go to that place? So this became my skill, and I mean, I should travel in the country because everyone says that the communication skills that you develop by travelling are very good. But the same problem is there everywhere; it is just a matter of finding a solution everywhere.
I used to miss it the most when there used to be festivals at my place, like Durga Puja of Kolkata and West Bengal, which is one of the best. Seeing people coming from outside, a lot of appendixes are made for Durga Puja here, a lot of money is spent, and it is a lot of fun. Roaming around till 4:00 late at night, sleeping late, waking up early, and then going out again—I miss all this a lot. I am a long-distance traveller. I missed last year's Durga Puja, and I could not take Literary at that time because I had exams immediately after Durga Puja. The day when Durga Puja ended, I had exams on Dashami, except for a day after that. I had no train tickets available, and I also checked for flights. That's why the number of tickets available was very low, and the amount I had could not afford the huge expenses. That's why I could not go, and I missed Literary at that time because I have a lot of time and I travel a lot.
Lastly, I would like to say that every channel has to take this difficult step and decision, or it is for your battery; your future is through this. You will get a good job. You will make good acquaintances. Whenever you get time in life, enjoy that time with friends because later you don't know whether you will get that time or not, and that is why I say that whenever you get time, enjoy it with your friends, travel as much as you can, and go on trips because after a while you won't get time. Your college will start. Your exams will start. After that you will get a job, so travel as much as you can now. Don't postpone it for later. Travel as much as you can right now; there is no money. Take it there and ask from Mom and Dad. Because this is the time for travelling; after this, your life is filled with only responsibilities.
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Yeah, moving away to somewhere else can be veey depressing and idk there’s this enormous amount of anxiety jist coursing through your veins. I remember the first time I moved to college, it was a new city, a new place. I didn’t know anyone, didn’t have any friends. My mum dropped me off, helped me process my dorm room and school stuff and left. I cried for weeks because I hated being there, I hated the food, I hated most of the students, I hated everything. But gradually, I started adjusting and although Im still not as comfortable as I am when I’m home, it’s a tad bit manageable now. Thanks for sharing
@ranjan02 Es difícil adaptarse a lugares nuevos, pero si es para superarse, vale la pena enfrentar ese desafío.
Gracias por pasar por aquí.