My experience about 'emotion' being a tool for decision making. - SMP#7

Emotion- the powerful force. Once the power drives you, you may not know when and how you ruined your life.

I say that emotional decisions never bring anything good. People's opinions may differ based on their lived experiences. I'm talking about mine, and I can strongly say that the handful of decisions I made based on my emotions are the ones I regret more.

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I had a boyfriend in high school, the relationship was toxic and he was very controlling. Back then, I didn't know what controlling means, I just knew love.

We had many nasty arguments and then we used to catch up again, just like any other teen relationship. But one day it was out of hand and we had a nasty fight in public. Before that, I was thinking of breaking up with him for a few days and never got the courage to tell him.

But after that fight, I said I'm finally living with you and this is final; no more catch-up, nothing. I came back home. But he was continuously calling me (as usual) and I (dumb me) picked up the call after an hour. He was sobbing and begging for forgiveness and saying, he would not make a scene again (as usual, a lie).

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Yes, as you may guessed I couldn't but said, okay. But I kept my distance from then. This drove him crazy. And after a few months, he did the same. I broke up with him after a year or so.

We were going back and forth about the same things month after month. It took away all my energy and emptied me. Now, when I look back I don't see any love but some immature decisions and emotional drama. If I was not driven by emotions so much I would have made a better decision and things would be different.

This relationship still makes me feel regretful...

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I'm not a person who is driven too much by emotions after I hit adulthood. My relationship taught me a few lessons that later helped me to build my personality.

So yes, there's regret but no regret in learning.

I can give some suggestions to are struggling to get a grip on their emotions.

• Pause/take a break and think. If you are a very emotional person, know that there's a high chance of making things worse. Rather take a step back and see the scenario from afar. Think about it and then make the choices.

• Seek help. In this alone world, we don't share anything with even the next person. But what I found helpful is, sharing with someone we trust. It's a game-changer. People give a different perspective of the situation that we may miss to look at.

• Be intentional. You don't have to learn from your past, life will do that. You just have to be conscious to not go to the same path again.

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Just a few months back, I gave emotional support and counseling to one of my cousins who was going through a heartbreak. That situation helped me to understand better about my emotional grip.

Our biological chemicals sure will drive us to choose what we are feeling inside. But there are ways to take control of it. You may not do that in early teen years but during adulthood, it should not be an excuse.

I'm telling you, no good will come from impulsive decision making. Even if it looks good, that's a coincidence. Be careful where you are putting your heart.

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