Things Left Unsaid

I went on an outing today with two of my favorite people. We’ve all known each other for the longest time, so I didn’t expect there to be any issue with the three of us hanging out together. It came as a surprise when they both had so many misunderstandings, and argued so much throughout our stay. All the while we were there, they had so many misunderstandings that simply enjoying the outing became seemed like such a far away task. Tension, anger, and frustration hindered us from fully achieving our aim of being there in the first place - to have fun.

One thing I’m grateful for, is the ability to let people be whatever or whoever they wanted to be around me. If you’re a clumsy person, it’s fine. I’ll just look away everytime you do something clumsy, just so you don’t feel embarrassed. If someone reacted differently to an action everybody knew they would have done otherwise, I don’t really care. I’ll just believe that the person had their reasons for doing what rhey did, and let them be.

I’ve never been one to nitpick, and point out mistakes every now and then. My experience with these lovely people today, made me realize how much more I should be grateful for this ability. When one made a mistake, the other would hastily point it out, making it seem bigger a deal than it actually was. They were both in the wrong, and I simply couldn’t do anything about it, because what was left of our fun moment few seconds away, still needed to be salvaged.

Many times, the weight of leaving too many things unsaid can be exhausting, I understand that but one thing I also know is that not every action deserves a reaction. Every individual is shaped by a set of beliefs, traits or opinions they either internalized from childhood or chose to adopt as they grew. The way a person reacts to a certain situation is always a reflection of those traits. So, constantly having someone point out how to act, or what is expected of them, is enough reason to get overwhelmed.

This act of Simply letting people be, and choosing to focus on myself is one I choose to carry forward into the new year. I accepted it a long time ago, that we all have opinions and beliefs of our own. So I don’t expect people to adopt my method just because it appears right to me. Coming to terms with this has helped me a lot in my relationships with people. I remember writing that I wanted to improve my relationships with people in the year 2025 when I was planning that year, and I did achieve that. So yeah, I’m continuing into 2026 with this trait of not being the one to point out people’s misgivings or slack areas.

However, this year 2026, I’m going to let go of impulsive decisions. There’s the weight of having to bear responsibilities I accepted on a whim. I did a number of things against my will, because a version of me had already accepted before I could even think it through. This year, I’ve began mirroring my neurons to know calmness. I now take my time to respond to what is required of me, weighing the odds, and ensuring I don’t end up displeasing myself while trying to please others. It’s a gradual process, and one I’m set to achieve.

Thanks for reading.

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