Spoil The Rod, Save The Child, And Educate With Love
One of the most difficult things in the life of couples is properly raising their children in love and respect. Proper discipline is a crucial part of successful parenting as it can shape the life of a child into being a disciplined child. Sometimes, discipline can put fear in the hearts of children if not adequately carried out.
There are different developmental stages in children. There are times when children are all-loving and have a beautiful attitude. However, there comes a time when the same child who was once well behaved, tends to behave in a disappointing way. Most times, they will not listen to your words when you advice them against the bad path they are on.
I grew up in a home where my mothers slippers was the facilitator of proper behavior. My mothers slippers has an inbuilt sniper, bow and arrow, bullets, whip, and the handler, my mom, has a very good aim.
During those days, my mother will always threaten to break my legs and that of my elder brothers legs because at a young age, my elder brother and I, use to go out and come back very late - sometimes by 11pm at night. My mom will always threaten to break our legs. One day, she got a rod, and was prepared to break our legs until her friends held her back. In her words, "it is better to have a useful cripple who will do things the right way, than to have a useless son who has his body part complete and well functioning."
I know you will probably be thinking that the authorities will jail her and stuffs, but things don't actually work like that in my country.
One thing I love about my mother is that; metaphorically, she uses one hand to discipline, and use the other hand to draw the child close to her self. When she disciplines, she makes sure that my elder brother and I understand the reason behind the whooping. She does this in a lovely way, but welp, we were still little. We will do it again, and still get whooped.
There are different methods of discipline that are very effective for children. I grew up in a very harsh condition where car engine belt is used to flog the heck out of me if I mess up but then, after everything, my mom will always find a way to make me feel the reason why she flogged me, and also, the repercussions if I was not disciplined. Even when she is annoyed, she explains everything to me while making me feel loved, and grateful for at least, having somebody to correct me when I made a mistake.
Personally, I actually admire this mode of discipline, thought, its a bit too harsh. I will not want to break my child's legs for anything reason but then, I will apply all forms of discipline to ensure that children are well behaved.
However, just as my mom, after every round of scolding or flogging, it is important to guide and educate the child on what they did, and how to avoid making the same mistake. It is important to give real life examples and show love. Discipline with love is the best form of discipline.
Thank you for reading.
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If parents become harsh or rude with their children then at another moment they bring them close to themselves and love them too
true. they don't become harsh for no reason
Hmm your mom is a disciplinary
yeah she is
The first lines of your post drops the truth. Raising a child is a serious institution for most couples. Thank God your mum did well in bringing you up.
I lost my dad at a tender age. My mum was left alone to do most of the training.
Thank you for sharing
I can relate to how it feels having just mom around. Your mom did a good job
African mothers are well trained with their weapons, if my mom throws her slippers at you those days she hardly misses.
That slippers do send shivers down our spines
thank you