Nothing Good Comes Easy: My Opinion
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"...I thought playing on him for a little while would reveal to him how important I am, and he would not joke with me when he finally gets me. I never knew he would move on," she said.
"So are you angry with him?" the panelist asked.
"Well, not really. He has made his choice, but if he valued me, he should have held on a bit," she responded again.
"Meaning you were playing hard to get?" the panelist asked.
"Ehhhm, not really hard to get, but a guy who is interested in you must wait and fight for what he wants. Nothing good comes easy," she added.
At this point, I started laughing and scrolled up to see another reel. I don’t know if the interview session was real or just an act, but I kept asking myself why some ladies think that playing hard to get shows how valuable they are. And why do Nigerians often believe that good things don’t come easy?
Maybe it works for some people, but to be honest and personal, I don’t think that works for everyone. There are people for whom time-wasting is a complete turn-off, and there are others who see time-wasting as a yardstick to measure the value of a thing.
Our country has conditioned our minds to believe that we must suffer to get certain things. This is evident in nearly all aspects of life. In relationships, job hunting, academics, and even in offices, people tend to believe that you must beg repeatedly before your request is granted. You see people queuing in offices just to get a document signed, and they may keep going back for weeks to beg. In Nigeria, anyone who holds an office often feels like a mini-god and believes nothing should come easy. You will hear some of them say, “Do you know what it took me to get to this level?” And I keep asking myself, must others also go through what you went through? Must we continue in suffering so that grace can abound?
A friend of mine applied for a job online a year ago. Within 15 minutes, he was done with the application. The next day, he was scheduled for a virtual interview. He was shocked by how fast and smooth the process was, and he said to me, “Nsi, I don’t think this will work.” I asked him why, and he said, “This process is too simple and smooth for this kind of job.” I smiled and said to him, that’s what the country we find ourselves in has done to our mentality.
But did he get the job? Yes. The virtual interview went well, and the following day he was called to start work. Was it a Nigerian company? Your guess is as good as mine.
In my country, we believe in queuing, filling different kinds of forms, looking for multiple guarantors, and needing a godfather or knowing someone who knows someone important. Even when opening an account in some Nigerian banks, the process can feel like you're filling a form to guarantee your salvation or to be approved as a heavenly candidate. They might ask for the color of your building, your BVN, NIN, electricity bill, water bill, feeding bill, and everything else they can think of. I’m waiting for the day they’ll ask for our great-grandparents’ first boyfriend or girlfriend’s name, all this just to open an account that they may still delay in activating. If you encounter any transaction issues, you might need to sleep at the bank before they sort it out.
This mindset has also affected relationships, just like the interview I started with. I know we must work for what we want, but not everything worth having requires suffering.
Do I believe in the saying that nothing good comes easy? While I partially accept that phrase, I still strongly believe that something good can come easily.
Who wan help you no suppose punish you.