Reflecting On My Opinion About Divorce
Recently, I encountered a video of a woman crying bitterly on social media that life alone is very hard and things are really tough for her since she left her husband she thought the man she was leaving him for was a good man and is going to take care of her kids but it turned out to be the opposite, now she said she wants to go back that people should help her beg her husband.
I feel some divorce decisions are out of greed and selfish reasons,s, not just for the husband and wife but also for the kids. When a family divorces, it does not just affect the husband and wife, but it also affects the ki, ds, and this teaches the unwise kids the negative side of the world. I feel there should be rules in divorce review; I once read a Twitter post of how a woman divorced her husband because she thought he was doing too much but later saw that he was the best ever she could have and advised other ladies to stay where they are and that divorce is never an option.
There are two good reasons I can consider divorce and an appropriate approach which are; If the husband beats the woman, I will advise her to leave because that is never loved and when he acts like a criminal or you are probably suspicious of him having a criminal record, then divorce can be the best approach to this for your mental health and well being.
I have little experience with marriage but most divorce reasons I have seen are unnecessary some will say they just get bored and want to explore, and some will even say they are tired of the marriage because he cares too much about her and it is choking, reasons like this makes me want to give up about marriage even though I am not yet married because I wonder how people feel doing this. Most times it is always about cheating, I feel this can't be stopped in this generation especially the generation of Genz, but personally, I am not a man who would love to keep a woman at home and go outside to be with another woman instead of being with my wife, this is the most tragic things about marriage, honestly, I don't know what to say. Most divorces even happen because of this, but I don't feel it is still a good reason to divorce because how sure are you that the next person you see will be better than him? You just have to give him Space and distance yourself, not completely divorce.
Most times I feel 80% of divorces happen for greedy reasons which I tend to observe mostly on social networks when people share their opinions, it is either they encounter a more pretty woman or the woman encounters a more Admirable man, so they just want to split up to meet the other man and this will later tend to affect the kid growing up.
I feel Divorce should have limitations whereby if both parties, the husband and wife, want to come back together, they can, and divorce shouldn't be 100% because it is mostly done out of mistakes, Selfish desires and curiosity.
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Your point is valid sometimes people take impulsive decisions, the impact of which is not just limited to the husband and wife, but also affects the mental and emotional health of the children.
There are so many divorce decisions that are out of greed and selfishness which makes making sure we really know who we are embarking on the marriage journey with very important.
The menance of divorce is getting out of hand and I feel that sometimes these people who are getting married do not even understand what they are getting into and hence treat that sacred institution shabbily causing more harm to the children who end up being dysfunctional
I totally disagree with the part you said, some divorce reasons are unnecessary, that's an unfair statement .
I feel before the decision of divorce, there should be other efforts to make things right with your partner, there's counseling, family, understanding each other's flaws and strength, psychology and many other options to explore before divorce.
If all these isn't working, then divorce becomes an option, instead of enduring for the rest of your life . Everybody's feeling is valid, no matter how little or unnecessary it might sound to you .
If its necessary then why do most divorced people often want to come back or get a second chance to be together. I have watched a lot of rediculous reason for seperations.