Traditional, Religious, or Court: Why the Court Wedding Wins My Heart.

I have honestly never given marriage much thought until recently. It's not that I’m against it or anything—I just feel like it's one of those life decisions that shouldn't be rushed. Right now, my focus is more on being financially stable. I believe strongly that before anyone decides to settle down and start a family, they should first be able to take care of themselves and their responsibilities. I don’t want to get into a marriage where love is present, but money becomes a problem. That’s one of the reasons i would be taking my time.

That said, I’ve seen different types of marriages happen in my family—traditional, court, and religious. Most times, we go for the traditional wedding first, especially because of our cultural background. It’s almost like a must in my family. After that, many people go ahead with the court wedding for legal recognition, and some even top it off with a church wedding. But if I had to pick one I truly prefer, I’d go with the court wedding. And I’ll tell you why.

A few years back, my sister had an elaborate traditional wedding. It was held in a large hall, and trust me, it was beautiful—but also stressful. From the planning to the expenses to the crowd control—it was just a lot. There were even some dramatic moments that made me silently vow never to put myself through that. People brought unnecessary drama. You would see some people saying they haven't eaten or the food they were given is not enough, and honestly, it became more about pleasing others than celebrating love. That whole experience made me realize that I’m more of a quiet, simple type of person.

So, when I think about the kind of wedding I would actually want, I imagine something small. Just me, my partner, and a few family members. No crowd, no unnecessary expenses, no pressure. That’s why I feel a court wedding would suit me perfectly. We sign the documents, take a few pictures, maybe go out for a nice meal after—and that’s it. It doesn’t make the love less real or the union less strong. In fact, I believe the simplicity of it allows the couple to focus more on each other and less on public opinion.

Now, to the question of whether the type of marriage affects how the home turns out—I honestly don’t think so. Whether you go for a traditional wedding, a court wedding, or a religious one, the most important thing is the people involved: the couple. If two people are genuinely committed to building a strong, respectful, and loving relationship, that’s what will determine the success of the marriage—not how or where the wedding took place. A glamorous wedding doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage, and a simple one doesn’t mean there’s no love.

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