Learning to Control My Temper.

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I believe everyone has a personality — it’s what makes us unique. Some aspects of our personality are really good and help us grow, connect with people, and handle life better. But then, there are parts of our personality that don’t always serve us well. They show up in ways we later regret, and sometimes, they affect how we relate with people or even how we see ourselves. That’s when we begin to feel the need to work on those parts and try to become better.

For me, if I could change one thing about my personality, it would be my quick temper. I’ve come to realise that I sometimes get angry over things that aren’t even worth the reaction. It’s not that I enjoy getting angry — in fact, I usually regret it later. But in the heat of the moment, I just react before thinking things through. It’s something I’m not proud of, and I’ve seen how it has affected some situations negatively.

There was a particular day that made me realise I needed to work on it. We had a group presentation to prepare for, and there were three of us in the group — two boys and a girl. At some point, they asked that we come together to add images and finalize the PowerPoint file that we would be submitting to the lecturer. It was a simple request, honestly. But at that time, I was extremely hungry and in a bad mood. Instead of just explaining myself calmly, I flared up. I told them I wasn’t going to participate and even said some really mean things the guy in the group. I told them to go ahead and submit without me. The boy even said he would remove my name from the list of participants — and instead of thinking straight, I got even more upset.

Later that day, after I had eaten and calmed down, I started thinking about everything. That’s when it hit me — they hadn’t even done anything wrong. I was the one who overreacted. My hunger and irritation got the better of me, and I let my temper ruin something so small. I felt terrible. I had to go back to both of them and apologise for my behaviour.

Luckily, the guy I had argued with was mature enough. He told me not to worry and said he would finish the file himself. I only had to pay a certain amount of money for the printing. That moment taught me something. My quick temper can make me push people away or spoil good things if I’m not careful. It’s something I’m learning to control because I don’t want to be known as someone who reacts harshly when situations can be handled better.

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