My experience on a one time journey
In my own little way, I love little conversations with people while travelling. It makes the journey less boring. There are days the conversations are unhelpful and I wonder why I started it. On other days, it flows easily.
Insightful, very daring.
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I once had a tight discussion with a passenger last December. We both were strange in the city. The whole transport style seems strange to us. I was folded up with her in the front seat beside the driver. With such tight space, I picked a topic to munch on. It was our familiar ground.
I asked her why she was visiting and she answered it was to see a friend. From my intuition, I picked that friend must be a guy. I was disillusioned when she said it was her best friend and a she. They were both from the same local town, where she stayed with her lovely grandmother accordingly.
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We proceeded to arts. She is Urhobo, fair in complexion, but I prefer them in ebony.
She is thin, a little bit tough with her beauty and firm in ideas. It’s like she took her time before arriving at a belief. Something she deeply wishes for everyone too. She said it would help to have some good rational and logical citizens in the country. That reasoning is our fundamental problem in the country.
In her artistry mood, she showed me a couple of her poems. I was able to get her to open up about that. One caught my fancy, about a traumatic relationship. The poem depicts the dire problem of a lovely girl. She wasn’t loved by her man. The man doesn’t bother about how she really feels. I asked if it was personal or fictional. She chose the latter.
I proceeded to ask a question that piqued my interest: Why do people, especially ladies, stay in a relationship when their emotional needs aren’t fulfilled? If a relationship is to serve both of you, why is it continued when you aren’t getting the best?
I mean, it’s a deal to always be there for each other. So if you don’t get your needs and wants, why stay?
I was surprised that she didn’t speak of her own opinion. Since she wrote the poem, I believe she must have thought of it. I understand she isn’t a constant poem writer as she mentioned that opinions are better left to the reader.
she asked for mine. I plainly said it is fear.
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They have suffered at the hands of that person. They have gone through traumatic experiences and they have lost a lot. among many is their self-esteem. They are chained in their thoughts, that they can’t be treated better by anybody else. They must have done badly in their past life for such to happen to them.
Emotionally they are stressed out. They can't hear love in their heart anymore. Of course, they can still be saved but it would take a lot of patience through recovery. People out there aren’t ready to take such a journey with the amount of patience required.
That’s what I thought of her piece. We spoke about other things and it got quiet after a while.
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