It's not so hard to say "NO"

Everyone loves a person who is kind and helpful to others. Such kind of person is very precious in my opinion, and I think in this selfish world finding that kind of person means being lucky. I am also fortunate enough to meet some of them and I also love to help others because it can give me satisfaction. I think doing good work by helping others is the best thing I can do as a human, and it can give me a heavenly feeling. Such a character is indeed very good.

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Did you hear that I said we are living in a selfish world? That's also the truth, and I think nobody can deny it. There are many people who love to take advantage of others kindness, and I really hate those people. I have seen lots of people who can do their work by making efforts, but they don't do so in time, and later they ask for the help of others. In my opinion, they don't deserve the help because they wasted their time by their own choice. But still, people help them because it is very difficult for people to say no to them. I can understand the feeling because long ago I also passed through the situation, and it was very difficult for me to say no, especially to the close people around us.

Such a thing can drain our energy and cost a lot of time. We need to keep in mind that we have limited energy and time, and we can't waste on others, and I also understand it well, but in the past, the situation was different.

In my earlier days, I used to think that saying no to others directly would be impolite, and I never wanted to ruin a relationship because they asked for a small favor. I knew that everyone was asking for a little favor, and it takes some time only but several people ask for favors many times, so it became difficult to manage time for everyone. Even after the visit, I tried to help as much as possible and drained my energy. Sometimes I failed to help them because of my busyness, and in that case, they showed me their anger. I think they thought about my help for granted and that caused the issue. They forgot about how many times they received my help of mine but they remembered only about the time when I failed to help them. It was difficult for me to refuse them, but later I realized that my effort and good intentions were nothing to them. They were just taking advantage of mine as well as my ability. So I changed my mentality, and I became selfish. I think it's good to be selfish because it can give me enough time for myself, and in that case, I don't care about what they think about me.

At the beginning, it was difficult to refuse, but with time, I learned it. At the beginning, are used to say I needed time to help show the excuses of my busyness, but later I became confident to say no, and it took a good amount of time to grow the confidence. Now the situation is mostly like that, I don't think twice before saying no if someone asks for my help. Maybe I don't think about helping others. But in some cases think some people deserve my help, and in that case, later I try to help them. Now I have time for myself and I don't need to think about others, and also think they don't expect my help for granted at the present time. Saying no to others is an art, and now I also know it, and even I can refuse in a polite way also but still I feel good to refuse harshly as it eliminates the thoughts to come to me from the next time for help. I don't feel bad at least for refusing others because I think it's my right to refuse them as they are not paying me for it.