Saying a capital.. No.. when needed, defines who you are.

Life is entirely entangled with choices and influences or manipulations. In life also, there are those people that are just out there to influence others negatively on their decisions. Most times you end up making regretable life time mistakes, that will live with you.

They're known as negative or positive influencers. Immediately they get to know what you are about to embark on, they will suggest their own patterns about it, or introduce their own way about it and immediately wants to mislead your original intentions and plans which you might regret at the long run.

Concrete decisions, discipline and firm character stance, are needed to scale through many of such situations or junctures of life.

something of such happened to me recently

A cousin of mine died suddenly in the village according to them, he died of a low blood pressure. He just came back from work that day, had an evening relaxation with his family, two sons and his wife. Suddenly, he told his wife about a surprise bad feeling in his body, not too long from then, he began to gasp for strength, breathe and comfort, they took him to two hospitals they rejected him, the third accepted him but said , he was gone! Everyone cried welled, yelled but he's gone, period.! Nothing we can do about it.

The burial has been set, family decision is everyone should contribute money for the burial. Myself has given as i can and decided i was not going to the village for the interment, I'm not ready for all that villge talks and gatherings.

But just two days ago, another cousin of mine came to me and started influencing and manipulating my decision of not going, she insisted on how improper and unacceptable it looks in the eyes and understanding of our extended relations in the village if i was not seen in the burial proper.

Her persistence, persuasion and influence on this topic became so intense that i began to change my mind gradually, but within me, I don't want to attend that burial.

She insisted, by reminding me that our aunts, uncles and family members will be very disappointed and angry lf I'm not there because the dead man is my first cousin, i nearly changed my mind and decisions on that. I began to ponder over my decisions, seriously.

Being able to take a stance of NO at the right time is a positive power

At a time, i reacted as if i was waking up from a deep sleep and said, No.... With a very strong affirmation, "i said NO .., im not coming to the village for this burial..

Please, i have already since two weeks ago contributed my own quarter for the burial, i do not want to be there, please i know you guys may term it an improper decision but please accept it that way, i do not want to come, let the rest of our relatives at home bury him. I stood my ground with my conviction and affirmative word...NO.

That was when she subsided her persuasive and intimidating conviction that i must go along with her to the burial.

The strongest lesson here that I'm sharing with us is my ability to stand firm on my ground to maintain my decisions, a No, which has been ny decision before she came up with her divergent, persistent, convincing decisions that i must go. Which i totally rejected! After all said and done. I'm not going!!

My stand here in the other hand, is that there's power, discipline in the ability to say no and still affirm to it politely even when the force was serious on me to change it, i never did.

This is the power to say NO, politely, even when my decision was challenged.

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