出乎意料的长夜An Unexpectedly Long Night 【中文/English】

今晚的直播意外地漫长，我也未曾想，自己会沉浸式停留数小时。跟着主播的逻辑脉络， 不自觉回溯起过往两年的日子，2024、2025 年的每一个选择与境遇，有错过也有沉淀，更读懂了 “成也萧何，败也萧何” 的深意。

曾经选择入职的那家公司，核心是看中它节奏缓慢、氛围安稳，不用加班，人员简单，不用应对高强度内耗，能有时间深耕专业。这份安稳陪我熬过了职场迷茫期，让我的心态和健康得以有了喘息的空间。可到了 2025 年，也正是这份过度缓慢的节奏，没有业务突破，没有成长空间，最终只能选择离职 —— 当初吸引我的核心优势，成了后来离开的直接原因。

感情里亦是如此。身边朋友和伴侣起初因对方的粘人体贴动心，这份时刻的陪伴让她的感情充满安全感，走过了很多平淡日子。但久而久之，这份粘人也变成了束缚，没有给彼此留足私人空间，慢慢消磨了好感，最终走向分开。

回头看才懂，很多选择本无绝对对错。那些最初支撑我们靠近的特质，在不同阶段或许会变成阻碍，不必纠结遗憾，经历本身就是成长。

Tonight’s livestream lasted much longer than I expected. I didn’t plan to stay, but I ended up watching for hours. As I followed the host’s way of thinking, I found myself looking back on the past two years—2024 and 2025. I thought about every choice I made, the things I missed, and the things I slowly built. I finally understood that what helps you succeed can also be what holds you back.
When I chose to join that company, I was drawn to its slow pace and calm environment. There was no overtime, the team was small, and there was little stress. It gave me time to focus on my skills. That stability helped me get through a confused time at work and gave me space to breathe. But by 2025, the same slow pace meant no growth and no new chances. In the end, I had to leave. The reason I joined became the reason I left.
Relationships can be the same. Some people fall in love with partners who are caring and always around. That closeness brings comfort and a sense of safety. But over time, it can feel limiting. Without enough personal space, feelings slowly fade, and people drift apart.
Looking back, many choices are not simply right or wrong. The traits that once pulled us closer can become obstacles later on. There’s no need to regret it—every experience is part of growing.

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