Direct Impact: My Environment and my Emotions.
It has been proven that cleanliness improves mood. When I fold my freshly done laundry into my drawers, mop the house, get the disorganized part of my house in order, it leaves me feeling better. Yes, I’d feel tired but it’s a kind of fatigue that comes with fulfillment.
That’s just how it is when it comes to within me. We see a cluttered place and think “eww”, that’s how it gets with me when my environment turns toxic.
I give heavy detail to my environment. I am not just talking about cleaning. That’s like 20% of it. What I mean is I take care to notice any funny business or movement that would affect my ability to rest. I need to be absolutely relaxed and at peace all day every day to meet up with my tasks. When my emotions gets clogged with frustration, it’s never a cool situation for me.
Just like this place I’m staying which I’m leaving soon, it turned sour. Now, I know there’s this thing about not running from your problems but there’s also the saying about being wise in your dealings. When a place begins to cost me my ability to think clearly or provokes all the negatives from me like envy, anger, bitterness, I just know it is time to pack my bags and leave. Not just with environment but with groups too especially people.
My environment has direct impact on my mental wellbeing. We live with other people as per the arrangements for housing here in Nigeria. Dealing with people is a must but you can decide to not at all. That’s my preference. I prefer to be labelled rude, arrogant and a snob (as is always the case) while being able to control what I feel. I prefer being in control of my emotions and my environment plays a huge role in this process.
I keep it to the bare minimum. Greetings and some generic talks is enough. I prefer not to have my neighbors or their kids waltzing into my rooms. It’s common here to host kids but I don’t want to. I love kids, I want to have four of them someday but at this point in my life, I like my sanctuary closed off to everyone else but me. Pets are welcome though.
There is something just heavenly about knowing that there is no bad blood or any form of corrupted emotion going on inside you towards other people. That’s the heaviest part. Knowing that they don’t like you doesn’t destroy as much as you not liking them. Because then everything about them irritates the hell out of you, it just makes you become a bitter person. I don’t want that. I hate that.
The main reason I am leaving this place though is irresponsibility from the landlord. We’ve been deprived proper electricity for months and their illegal connection brings a lot of bad blood. I want to live in a place where I can enjoy electricity without worrying if we are gonna get caught. I don’t want to come home to my flat dark when there is power everywhere else. I don’t want to be around people who feel they are right all the time. Loud people with little works to show for their nuisance. Such places drain me. I thrive in places the opposite of all that.
Not people (old enough to be your parents) keeping malice with you because you told them the truth. Yeah, such places are not for me. I’d rather leave. Especially when their energy is being contracted and I’m giving back what I’ve been receiving. I’m not a hateful person. I am full of love, and when a place is full of darkness, I don’t stick around. I leave.
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Staying away from toxic people and environments doesn't make you cruel; it makes you conscious. Staying away is loving yourself, because environments and people directly influence our mental health. Humans are the only animals that don't leave places that question their survival just out of politeness. So I applaud you for distancing yourself: there's a reason flowers don't thrive in all gardens. Best regards.
Thank you very much!🌺🌺🌺🥰🥰🥰
I honestly reckon with you babe. You know this reminds me of where I lived when I was doing my youth service. A place where there is no water and no light except the days when NEPA remembers the compound. Those were like even 20% of my problem. The huge cause of my irritation was the people who lived around us. You would see old men and women sitting down to gossip about what my roommate and I wore out or how we tend to go out at night(mostly because we had a friend in the outskirts who had constant light, so we slept there on most nights) I remember one time when I had a confrontation with one of them, she practically said if she were my mom,she would be so disappointed in me. I looked at her and said “my mother can not be so disgraceful like you and if you were my mom, I would have disowned you by now" Leaving that place was a big therapy for me, honestly.
That’s it! You don’t dwell in darkness, you walk away from it by leaving.
Leave it to old Nigerians to “discipline” other people’s children. Funny how their kids could be menaces in society. Chai. That was quite the response you had there. 😂😂😂
A clean environment is everything for me. It improves everything even without me knowing and I love how it makes me feel so why not?
Bad energy has to stay far away. It’s good that you’ve identified what works for you and you are trying your best to stay away from people that influence you to give negative energy like them.
Good luck with moving out of your old place, Rara.
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Thank you.
One thing is certain and it’s communication corrupts good manners. We might not be talking but they communicate via body language and I feel the energy most of the time.
this is so healthy to move that way, your mind , body and life.
its a sign of great strenght and maturity.
hell to negative energies,i am happy you found another place and i hope you ll feel happier in it.
i would imagine these problems lasted for some time.
which color you are painting your walls in ?