Discipline is not to kill but to guide & direct a child

Hello, welcome to another beautiful week. Hope you all enjoyed your weekend.

Parenting to me doesn't have a permanent manual, because what works for Mrs. Amadi's children might not work for Mrs. Tunde's children. While growing up, we were all not disciplined in the same manner, some of us got a lighter punishment, while people like me and my little brother got the criminal punishment, lol, you all will be wondering which one is criminal punishment.

According to my father, my younger brother and I are the most stubborn in the house, while the rest always take correction, we are always disobeying and doing what suits us, so every time we are always on the hot seat receiving cane.

At a stage, my father was tired of flogging us because we still end up doing what he asked us not to do again and as kids, because he constantly punished us, we hated him and didn't want to have anything to do with him. So he changed, no matter what we did he wouldn't flog us but give us warnings and would tell us that the day he would resume flogging us, we would ask God if he was our biological father.

At first, we called it a bluff because which other pattern was he supposed to use on us that he hadn't used? But one day he flogged me and I fainted for a crime I didn't commit because he suspected that I must be the one. After I recovered from that beating, I insisted they take me to stay with my grandma or I would run away. They thought I was joking until one day after school, I didn't return home.

My parents searched for me for two days and nobody thought of checking my grandma's house, which is where I was. When my parents finally saw me, I refused to go back and that's how I separated from them.

Why am I telling this story, many parents in the name of disciplining their child have turned the heart of that child bitter towards them, some have even assumed that they are not loved.

I don't like flogging but I will give you normal punishments that you will have a rethink, although not always I prefer to correct, allow you to cry, and bring you close later to show you where you went wrong.

Discipline works in different forms for different kids, I don't have any kids of mine but you see my brother's kid, especially his first son, leading by example doesn't work for him, he acts like an adult, if you correct him, he keeps malice with you, my brother will always say he behaves like an elderly person and everybody finds his character funny but not me.

He tried it with me, one day I asked him to clean up where he ate and pick any pieces of food on the floor, he refused and I forced him to do it. In the morning he refused to greet me, I dragged him back and insisted he must greet me or I will flog him. He refused, and I too refused to give him food cause flogging him, was a waste of time, I used my weakness, and I didn't allow him to watch cartoons while his sister and my other niece enjoyed it.

I'm still his favorite Anuty, I make him do so many things he refuses to do but later I will always let him know why I force him to do it, in my house as you eat finish take your plate to the sink, and wash it. There are a few rules I drop in my house if you are coming for holidays, you must follow them. Communication and examples are what kids follow, talk and you act it for them to see too.

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