“Dad’s smile: my public speaking game changer” 🥺😊

Soo its been a while I have been on here, been soo swamped with work, making me not able to come back at the end of the day. I’ll try to do better ☺️

Ok soo what do we know about fear? To my understanding fear is a feeling(and not a good one) because it mostly doesn’t yield positive results.

Overcoming your fear of something is also not an easy task. Soo since I was little I had always had a fear of public speaking. Just the thought of it alone made me nauseous 🤢 and nervous.

Do you know what confused me about it?

It was the fact that even when it had to with speaking formally in front of my friends and classmates I still would not be comfortable, honestly I have ho idea why 🤷🏽‍♀️. When it came to gisting with the same said friends normally I would be soo cool and relaxed that you wouldn’t even believe that I had stage fright 🙄

I don’t know if it was the thought of them laughing at me when it got to my turn or something else, I just didn’t like public speaking at all( always tried to run away from it )

Now hear me out, I was luckily always able to escape it somehow in primary school and secondary school, but you see university, hmmm I just wasn’t able to escape it when it got to that stage 🥺

The lecturers always made sure everyone in all the groups spoke, they had our names and reg numbers soo we couldn’t escape at all. If there was a sign of fowl play then everybody in that group fails 😭

I remember when I did my first presentation in university 😆 I was soo happy what I had to say was sooo short 😮‍💨. When it got to my turn I just hurriedly came out read what I had on my paper and then immediately entered back into the crowd of my group 🤣

The lecturer didnt even know what hit her 😂 probably couldn’t tell when I started and when I finished. Its all good though.

My turning point was when I met a friend who helped me a little ☺️ she told me “when you come out to talk, close your eyes, count to three, imagine one person you would like to be there seeing you present, someone you can easily talk in front of and then open your eyes, breathe 😮‍💨 and talk”

I tried it and found myself imagining my late dad smiling at me every time 😊 that made talking a little easier for me. I’m still not perfect at public speaking tho, I still get scared and anxious but at least I’m getting better little by little.

Images are mine 🥂 ✌🏾

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