Dare To Ask: An Important Step To Getting What You Want

Many people have lots of dreams, aspirations, goals, but why does it look like not everyone has fulfilled their goals? Sometimes, it might just be something as little as "asking," that could be what is standing between them and their goals. Relying solely on your individual effort for everything will make you limited. At any point in life, you cannot overgrow getting help. However, in order to get the help that you want, you have to learn to ask. Tell me, how will someone know that you want something if you have not asked? I remember what a friend normally said; "don't die in silence, ask for help." You will be surprised what you can get simply by asking.

I remember what happened a few years back. In the place I worked briefly during one of my vacation period, there was a new machine that was introduced to our department. When it was taught to others, I was not in office because I went to submit an important document in school. So the next day, I saw the machine, and I looked for the manual to have a hands-on, yet I could not understand much from a 50-page manual, probably because I rushed it through. I tried operating the machine but could not. After about 1 hour of back-and-forth with the machine, I called a colleague of mine and asked him how I would go about the machine.

When he came, he pointed at a button and told me that it is the start. Then from there, he led me through step-by-step ways on how to get started and to operate the machine. In less than 20 minutes, I had already learnt it so well that I started operating it on my own. Adorably, the same machine I spent 1 hour on without having a way out, I was able to start operating in 20 minutes simply because I dared to ask and I got the help I needed. If I did not ask, I may have spent the whole day in futility trying to operate it. The same thing happens in life. A lot of people have not gotten what they want because they have not dared to ask for it.

There is so much power in asking. It has the power to connect you from where you are to where you want to be. That is, it is the bridge that connects one's desire with their reality. It is sad that a lot of people hold back from asking because of fear, which includes fear of rejection, fear of unknown, fear of embarrassment, or even fear of getting a "no." What they fail to understand is that they can also get a "yes." Trust me, behind every yes that you get in life is a courage to ask. There are times that even a no can become a yes with time. Do not allow fear to prevent you from taking the step to ask. What you need to understand is that if you ask, you have two possible outcomes - either a yes or a no. But when you do not ask, you already have a no.

It is worthy to note that the purpose of asking is not to shift your responsibility to someone else, nor is it to be fully dependent on someone, nor to make you lazy, but it is to make you take more responsibilities in order to achieve success. For example, if you are asking to be taught a particular skill, it is because you want to learn it and become independent. Not just about asking for money. This is why it makes much more sense asking to be taught how to catch fish than asking to be given fish. The former will confer you with more responsibilities, while the latter may just make you docile.

It is not a mark of arrogance to ask when you are asking for the right reason. As a matter of fact, it shows humility and courage. Humility to know that you do not know everything, and courage to make the move to ask. I have also discovered that asking provides you with a chance to pursue your goals. More so, it can also turn total strangers into allies and even destiny helpers. It also turns possibilities into realities. Anytime you come to a crossroad in your life, remember that you must not do it all alone by yourself, you can ask for assistance to make the journey easier for you.

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